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[Gagan Sidhu]

there’s nothing to suggest i didn’t follow the code of conduct given below.

i engaged the individual multiple times and corrected them, where they deliberately (this is the key thing) ignored my responses.

as time went on they would pivot to this multiple times, in spite of me correcting them. this was over a couple of weeks!

the github exchange is quite clear: https://github.com/macports/macports-ports/pull/2603

they continued to repeat the falsity of all nodejs using the bundled libuv on a bug ticket: https://trac.macports.org/ticket/71475
	-again for the umpteenth time, only nodejs20 and 22 had doneso.

you are entitled to your opinion, but please do not conflate my intolerance for uncivilised behaviour as anything but.

it wasn’t personal. this is supposed to be a sophisticated project with sophisticated people. this person decided to use their position of authority to twist my words multiple times, never admitting any error, and i felt it was necessary to confront them.

i have not acted this way with others, so the audience is free to determine where my heart lay during the exchange.

was my pursuit of correctness at the expense of manners? i don’t think so. 
	-sometimes the truth hurts.

and while for sure his contributions will be missed, it looks some of my words were finally absorbed. 
	-i’m hopeful he decides to come back and engage in good faith.

i believe it was obvious why he was doing this to me in the first place.
	-i’m not going to dignify or explain what i think or believe was the reason for ken’s uncivilised conduct.
		-but i will say i was probably better contributing anonymously, and it would have likely not spiralled.

for those in the audience whom i offended: i apologise. 


> On Feb 4, 2025, at 11:18 AM, Nicklas Larsson via macports-dev <macports-dev at lists.macports.org> wrote:
> 
> Ken,
> 
> This was sad news indeed! I’m sorry, but respect your decision.
> I had not much, if any at all, to contribute to the issue(s) of dispute. However, I found the personal attack on you from this individual utterly appalling.
> I’m not aware of MacPorts have a Code of Conduct, a commonly used CoC in open source projects is [1]. Even if I have no formal say in the matter, I would support Ryan’s suggestion for permanent ban. Wouldn’t care less if this is would be a A. Einstein level genius.
> 
> Best,
> Nicklas
> 
> 
> [1] https://www.contributor-covenant.org/version/2/1/code_of_conduct/
> 
> 
>> On 4 Feb 2025, at 18:44, Ken Cunningham <ken.cunningham.webuse at gmail.com> wrote:
>> 
>> First of all, I’ve been pretty strongly attacked, as you can see.
>> 
>> Gagan has been around MacPorts for about two or three months. He has two commits so far to his name:
>> 
>> https://github.com/macports/macports-ports/commits?author=i3roly
>> 
>> You can feel free to read the entirety of our interaction in the PR where he felt slighted:
>> 
>> https://github.com/macports/macports-ports/pull/26031
>> 
>> Any failings of mine in there are about the best I will ever be able to do.
>> 
>> There was also one brief email exchange with him where expressed his displeasure with me, and I pointed out he was very new and there was much to learn.
>> 
>> All that being said — and not strictly because of that interaction, but in respect to other general life events, I have re-evaluated how I choose to spend my time. Life is short, as we all know, and there are only so many hours in the day. I have resigned from the MacPorts’ committer team, and deleted all my MacPorts installations on older systems and all my VMs.
>> 
>> What little I may have contributed over the past 10 years that people may have found useful, I hope you enjoy. What failings I may have had are life’s foibles. Like everyone, we all try to do our best. 
>> 
>> It was fun, in ways, keeping all those older systems humming — but I have moved them all to linux now, and I don’t use them any more anyway.
>> 
>> I wish you all well in your future adventures! 
>> 
>> Best,
>> 
>> Ken
> 



Thanks,
Gagan